Firefox has an tick-box for "show title bar" on the Toolbar customisation screen.
Thunderbird has it elsewhere, buried in Settings.
I think it would be easier to find it if was in the same place as in Firefox, or better still, in both places.
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I see this in Thunderbird 128's Settings UI on Windows and Mac.
@lproven what version and OS are you using?
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